tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post2408587988017006488..comments2023-08-06T04:09:45.468-07:00Comments on ...and hijinks ensued.: Confessions of a desperate approval seekerPrincess Pointfulhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10911296163218358167noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-73894205504259101812009-03-16T19:11:00.000-07:002009-03-16T19:11:00.000-07:00The rule of 1/3rds:1/3 of people like you...they a...The rule of 1/3rds:<BR/><BR/>1/3 of people like you...they are in your corner.<BR/><BR/>1/3 of people don't like you...no matter what, they don't.<BR/><BR/>1/3 could go either way. <BR/><BR/>It is funny how much effort people put into the 2nd group.Therapeutic Ramblingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12781452874259470378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-87265424623569843742009-02-28T13:30:00.000-08:002009-02-28T13:30:00.000-08:00WoW.. I feel the exact same way with your post.. t...WoW.. I feel the exact same way with your post.. thanks for making me like Im not alone... oh and we better be friends now...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-55370484030655730952009-02-28T07:57:00.000-08:002009-02-28T07:57:00.000-08:00I'm with you on this one. For sure!I'm with you on this one. For sure!Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07607474600318564658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-951388581134443202009-02-26T15:29:00.000-08:002009-02-26T15:29:00.000-08:00i am the EXACT SAME WAY. i have this need to be at...i am the EXACT SAME WAY. i have this need to be at least respected and not trash talked by others. i like being the mild floater who makes people laugh! you can't NOT like me, dammit!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-77552438630082681912009-02-26T06:59:00.000-08:002009-02-26T06:59:00.000-08:00great post. i completely get what you're saying. i...great post. i completely get what you're saying. i used to really care about everyone liking me but it got so futile and frustrating that i've completely gone to the other extreme and it doesn't come off the best in certain situations. i need to find a middle ground, i think.lissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03004702260976878505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-38427028971307275152009-02-25T12:59:00.000-08:002009-02-25T12:59:00.000-08:00I always seem to make more of an effort when i get...I always seem to make more of an effort when i get the impression someone doesn't like me . . . even if I don't particularly like THEM based on their behaviour towards me. It really annoys me that I do that.Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04425977546505490830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-4780732381089814002009-02-25T08:10:00.000-08:002009-02-25T08:10:00.000-08:00Casey Stengel used to say the secret was to keep t...Casey Stengel used to say the secret was to keep the five people who don't like you away from the five who were on the fence. <BR/><BR/>Seriously, having other people like you isn't important, unless you, like, need to interact with people. Ever. <BR/><BR/>Are you sure you're not overinterpreting her response? Maybe she likes you just fine, but didn't see any need to elaborate? I'm laconic by nature, and I also clam up when I'm angry. Thus, among my loved ones there is often confusion whether I am furious or just being me.8https://www.blogger.com/profile/00897636875216996092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-83217460684687651552009-02-25T05:47:00.000-08:002009-02-25T05:47:00.000-08:00I think by the amount of comments you have receive...I think by the amount of comments you have received on this that its proof that we all feel this way at times. <BR/><BR/>I agree with Ant's comment that people are all so full of their own neuroses and agendas - she was probably worrying so much about you liking her to think about how she came across to you. If not, then she's a bitch and who needs to be friends with a bitch?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-87731590569894953412009-02-25T05:45:00.000-08:002009-02-25T05:45:00.000-08:00I agree with you on this one. People who proclaim ...I agree with you on this one. People who proclaim boldly that they do and say whatever they want and don't care what people think of them are lying. I know a few people like this and although they put on a brave face, I recognize their insecurity.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-2710250582978015592009-02-25T05:05:00.000-08:002009-02-25T05:05:00.000-08:00not everyone is going to like you... At least tht'...not everyone is going to like you... At least tht's what I think. Then again I have a polarizing personality, people loveor hate me. People are rarely indifferent.KAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03090582170365523716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-16280088800057548092009-02-24T23:22:00.000-08:002009-02-24T23:22:00.000-08:00I am such the approval seeker so this rang true fo...I am such the approval seeker so this rang true for me....I can't simply apply the adage that people take me for who I am and that be that - it is much more complex then that. Do I like this particular charachter trait of mine? Not really...but I can't seem to shake it without feeling insecure...wah....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-40020225456289878472009-02-24T23:07:00.000-08:002009-02-24T23:07:00.000-08:00You're right, it does matter if people like us or ...You're right, it does matter if people like us or not. Otherwise, we wouldn't be social creatures if we didn't care for what people think.<BR/><BR/>That said, "The Art of Indifference" is a very useful thing to be masterful at. Sure, you care about the people near and dear about you ... and what they think of you. But this friend of BFs? Srsly, this is one person you do not *have* to please. You're the one with the boy, right? If she wants to hang out more with him, she'll have to realize that she can do that only by being friends with you first.Yodahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09711652528962940049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-82615052926376831472009-02-24T22:30:00.000-08:002009-02-24T22:30:00.000-08:00Oh I do the same thing. The thing is, she might be...Oh I do the same thing. The thing is, she might be writing a blog post at this minute thinking, "uh, why didn't I open my stupid mouth and say I liked my friend's girlfriend?" Like maybe she was distracted or something. Either way, it does waste a lot of energy trying to guess what she might be thinking. But like I said, I do the same thing.Tonyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618173853004051479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-62816473434227212752009-02-24T18:57:00.000-08:002009-02-24T18:57:00.000-08:00I'm the same way. It's important to me that even p...I'm the same way. It's important to me that even people I don't like like me. I like to be able to make the decision for us to be 'not friends'.<BR/><BR/>I found it amusing that you picked up on the possibility she didn't like you based on her decision to not compliment back.Abbeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01338660653004655997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-76254488232514746462009-02-24T14:52:00.000-08:002009-02-24T14:52:00.000-08:00I know how you feel. It's like, "did I do somethin...I know how you feel. It's like, "did I do something wrong? Am I actually really not as great as I think I am?" when in actuality, it's really the other person's problem. I have to accept people not liking me all the time at work. It sucks, but I'm like, "You know, if they can't see how awesome I am, then I really don't think I like them either."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-22067651785495046912009-02-24T14:29:00.000-08:002009-02-24T14:29:00.000-08:00I'm totally the same way though I rarely admit it ...I'm totally the same way though I rarely admit it b/c I feel like that would be a serious weakness. But it's not. It's just the way we are. I'm getting better about it though, I think it comes with finding extreme confidence. and it comes with the realization that other people really suck, and you are AWESOME. So FUCK EM ALLLL hahahAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-21038110163955290052009-02-24T14:11:00.000-08:002009-02-24T14:11:00.000-08:00I'm recovering. You get to the point that it just ...I'm recovering. You get to the point that it just becomes exhausting worrying so much about what people think, when half the time, it has more to do with them and their issues than ours.<BR/><BR/>All that said, I am suspicious of this girl, because the proper thing to do would have been to say something polite and noncommittal, and the absence of it raises my hackles.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-61511908589422947882009-02-24T12:33:00.000-08:002009-02-24T12:33:00.000-08:00Oh, PP, but the thing is, it's not always about yo...Oh, PP, but the thing is, it's not always about you (and I say this in the most gracious of ways). By that, I mean, it could be that the Duke's friend had her mind elsewhere and didn't even realize she came off so apathetic about meeting you. Or maybe she secretly has a crush on the Duke and will never like you for taking away her chance with him. Or maybe she's just the type who isn't grateful for a gracious host (and would show that apathy towards just about anyone). The list of maybes goes on for quite some time. And as other readers suggest, it's just not worth getting your panties in a bunch over it. Not this one time. Now, if it becomes a pattern of people not showing enthusiasm when meeting you, then I might suggest you look within. =)Nilsa @ SoMi Speakshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08474642034399063234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-50278954590498835582009-02-24T12:28:00.000-08:002009-02-24T12:28:00.000-08:00You mean that there are people out there that coul...You mean that there are people out there that could possibly not like me?! <BR/><BR/>I choose to go through life thinking that everyone likes me (if even a little) as the possibility that someone wouldn't seems so outside of the realm of reality... <BR/><BR/>When in actuality, Perhaps it is me that is so outside the realm of reality.<BR/><BR/>Good post - this is something I often think about.If your body is a temple, mine must be a mansion!https://www.blogger.com/profile/07178109013547761460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-60239221738707447712009-02-24T08:01:00.000-08:002009-02-24T08:01:00.000-08:00I am exactly like you in this. I want people to li...I am exactly like you in this. I want people to like me, and I would have been upset if that girl didn't like me after I went out of my way to be nice to her.<BR/><BR/>The fact of the matter is not everyone will like you (or me.) And we probably won't like everyone we meet. Does that make me feel better when someone doesn't like me, though? Not a bit. Hopefully, these people won't matter much in the long run.EPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08600424792398230829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-1696127963616816172009-02-24T07:57:00.000-08:002009-02-24T07:57:00.000-08:00To be honest, I think it's pretty amazing that you...To be honest, I think it's pretty amazing that you can openly admit to feeling dependent on being liked/wanting to be liked/etc. Most people, I think, kind of convince themselves that stuff like that doesn't affect them, that they don't care. The fact that you realize it, and acknowledge it, is a huge thing!<BR/><BR/>That being said, I know, to a certain extent, many of struggle with this. I think that blogging certainly has its moments of "oh, I'm not getting a ton of comments on this post," or, "Why don't I have more readers?" Etc. And I think it all comes down to the same concept you're discussing. I think it's totally natural -- we're all human, we're all insecure in one way or another, and we're all looking for approval from someone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-56773125280454086232009-02-24T07:34:00.000-08:002009-02-24T07:34:00.000-08:00I think the not caring thing came with age for me,...I think the not caring thing came with age for me, because I really used to give a crap.<BR/><BR/>But now, I don't. You don't like me, ok cool, I don't get it because I'm pretty terrific, but hey, what ever.<BR/><BR/>I just either don't care enough, or don't have enough energy to make an effort for those that don't like me, and that extends to worrying about it.myselfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12342291703469735721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-3177495161891191002009-02-24T06:20:00.000-08:002009-02-24T06:20:00.000-08:00I think, if we're honest, it matters to all of us....I think, if we're honest, it matters to all of us. I think we all want others to see us the way we want them to see us.<BR/><BR/>But my view is this 'If you love me, I love you. If you don't, not my fault you have bad taste...'Crushedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02479751225625007588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-79685117371153119542009-02-24T05:32:00.000-08:002009-02-24T05:32:00.000-08:00Really well put- I totally hear you on all counts,...Really well put- I totally hear you on all counts, I absolutely hate not being liked, and I too put myeslf out for people in order for them to like me. Sometimes I wish I didn't care, but I'd be a different person if I didn't and hopefully there are enough people out there who appreciate the efforts we make to make it worth it.Daisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11235077158774802615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-85318126165672178842009-02-24T05:09:00.000-08:002009-02-24T05:09:00.000-08:00I'm horrible at not being liked...unless I don't l...I'm horrible at not being liked...unless I don't like the person in question. Then I don't much care. Haha.Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17795526911040698284noreply@blogger.com