tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post4279831571408606994..comments2023-08-06T04:09:45.468-07:00Comments on ...and hijinks ensued.: My unsolicited and hypocritical dating advicePrincess Pointfulhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10911296163218358167noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-36464005839598302512009-02-20T19:14:00.000-08:002009-02-20T19:14:00.000-08:00sensible tips that i completely agree with! i don'...sensible tips that i completely agree with! i don't get the appeal of dating and i haven't even done much of it, either.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-47749897584568230662009-02-20T12:37:00.000-08:002009-02-20T12:37:00.000-08:00From a girl who had years of dating experience, yo...From a girl who had years of dating experience, you hit this one spot on. One I'd add ...<BR/><BR/>+ Be honest with yourself. If you can't be honest with yourself about who you are and what you're looking for, how can you be honest with the person you think you love?Nilsa @ SoMi Speakshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08474642034399063234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-39217849167533473362009-02-20T12:22:00.000-08:002009-02-20T12:22:00.000-08:00I think all men and women are broken. It isn't up ...I think all men and women are broken. It isn't up to one to "fix" the other, but a little bit of effort can go a long way.<BR/><BR/>As for FWB, NSA, and the like...they aren't meant to be long-term, so enjoy them for what they are, and for as long as they last.Therapeutic Ramblingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12781452874259470378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-34897864873235298752009-02-20T11:38:00.000-08:002009-02-20T11:38:00.000-08:00I like it. I went to see He's Just Not That Into Y...I like it. <BR/><BR/>I went to see He's Just Not That Into You and cringed half the time...<BR/><BR/>In my experience, I've been a little too lax on things. Like, oh we've been dating for 6 months and you still don't want to be my boyfriend? I don't need labels. Ha! I know now that you have to have SOME sort of backbone or you get walked all over.<BR/><BR/>I would add that the 3 month and 6 month mark are essential reevaluation periods (like your "if you're not happy in the first month" comment).JDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18374546260940575763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-51476135850876801912009-02-20T07:40:00.000-08:002009-02-20T07:40:00.000-08:00sounds like good advice to me...I dated a little b...sounds like good advice to me...I dated a little before my boyfriend, but they were mostly duds. I also had one friend that wanted to be FWB, and the more I turned him down, the more he wanted me. Go figure.Rosemary/sonriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15526834495219216875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-35403256782386832122009-02-20T02:54:00.000-08:002009-02-20T02:54:00.000-08:00What a fantastic blog you have going here!!Yeah, I...What a fantastic blog you have going here!!<BR/>Yeah, I never dated much either but when I started.....I really started :)<BR/>Please drop by to visit my blog if you get a minute.<BR/><BR/>Steady On<BR/>Reggie GirlMidlife, menopause, mistakes and random stuff...https://www.blogger.com/profile/04189854037804749722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-8329667348183595342009-02-19T18:08:00.000-08:002009-02-19T18:08:00.000-08:00Um, I'm just going to go right ahead and 'ditto' O...Um, I'm just going to go right ahead and 'ditto' Overcoat's comment. That girl is 800 shades of genius.brandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14353594558144154909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-49096933907576733262009-02-19T17:41:00.000-08:002009-02-19T17:41:00.000-08:00From someone who's dated a lot... I agree with pre...From someone who's dated a lot... I agree with pretty much all of this and I think a lot of this advice could be applicable to women AND men. I've definitely had my share of guys push me away by getting too serious/clingy too soon.<BR/><BR/>I understand the feeling people have about honesty v. "playing hard to get" but I don't think it's really about that-- I think it's about being solid in yourself and not depending on someone you just met to supply your entire life's validation/goals/meaning. I honestly feel that in most cases I've seen-- myself and others-- when someone is being "clingy" it isn't about them just genuinely loving the other person. It's about them not being solid enough in themselves. And that? Reeks to the other person like moldy cheese. Believe it.Laurie Starkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11477124105292431735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-22299315799637217752009-02-19T11:09:00.000-08:002009-02-19T11:09:00.000-08:00First let me give some unsolicited advice to other...First let me give some unsolicited advice to other guys who stumble across this. <BR/>A.) No amount of physical attractiveness will be able to get you over how much you can't stand a girl. <BR/>B.) Don't cut out your other friends just to make a clingy girl happy. <BR/><BR/>I'm sure they are others but those are the two that jump out in my head right now.<BR/><BR/>- Kendall<BR/><BR/>P. S. I think I have developed a bit of a crush on you if only because you called Dr. Phil the Devil. : )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-52384831143858172532009-02-19T10:26:00.000-08:002009-02-19T10:26:00.000-08:00So much good advice in there! Like you, I've never...So much good advice in there! Like you, I've never really "dated" but I've often though these same things myself about others out there.Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04425977546505490830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-47525272441741743852009-02-19T10:18:00.000-08:002009-02-19T10:18:00.000-08:00I'll just add what I've told my sister.........Don...I'll just add what I've told my sister.........<BR/><BR/>Don't pretend to be something you're not, and this goes for everything from heavily padded bras to pretending to like sports.<BR/><BR/>There are men out there who like every different type of girl. Don't waste your time trying to win the affection and/or attention of someone who is not attracted to you for who you are, as hard as that may be....<BR/><BR/>Make room in your life for the men who are attracted to the real you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-83998373843079248852009-02-19T08:57:00.000-08:002009-02-19T08:57:00.000-08:00A few weeks ago I read some really simple, but wis...A few weeks ago I read some really simple, but wise, dating advice. The article said that you should approach dating from the top down: head first, then the heart, and then well..you know.<BR/><BR/>Like you, I've never been much of a "dater" because I tend to prefer committed relationships. Because of this, I try not to judge the decisions of those who are dating, but I always find myself thinking the same things that you've outlined in this post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-60344735565930158302009-02-19T08:42:00.000-08:002009-02-19T08:42:00.000-08:00Spot on post! It kills me to hear about girls tha...Spot on post! It kills me to hear about girls that sleep with guys on the first date and they wonder why they're not in a relationship....<BR/><BR/>ps. i've haven't really dated very much either.dmb5_librahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01870075018269580695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-31648044738989175282009-02-19T08:31:00.000-08:002009-02-19T08:31:00.000-08:00I usually find that dating advice seems so self ex...I usually find that dating advice seems so self explanatory. But I've watched my girlfriends (and me too) doing the stereotypical things that we do. I've been "dating" for about 3 years and guys never cease to amaze me, dating can be a minefield and not matter how nimbly you try to negotiate it sometimes you step on one.Tigerlilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12075639059164559112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-71559596631259175622009-02-19T08:01:00.000-08:002009-02-19T08:01:00.000-08:00You're bang on with most of that.I've only really ...You're bang on with most of that.<BR/><BR/>I've only really dated after my marriage went bust 8 years ago. Which ends up being really hard when my dating history was like yours (I dated 3 people prior to my marriage).<BR/><BR/>And probably hence why I'm single. I don't have a clue what I'm doing.myselfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12342291703469735721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-51686124729635344582009-02-19T07:59:00.000-08:002009-02-19T07:59:00.000-08:00All very good advice. From someone in one of those...All very good advice. From someone in one of those, FWB, situations, I can say it takes a LOT of open communication from both parties about the guidelines, boundaries, etc. The expectation HAS to be as such that NEITHER parties think this is "going anywhere." That said, do I think that someone's feelings might be hurt when it's all said and done to some extent? Probably. We are only human. My guess is I'll be the first to end it being that I want something more, from someone, not him.Tonyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618173853004051479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-16506436655535434372009-02-19T06:57:00.000-08:002009-02-19T06:57:00.000-08:00mostly sound advice; don't know about the hard to ...mostly sound advice; don't know about the hard to get part though. honesty actually works pretty well.<BR/><BR/>as for 'the talk', what i found works well is to talk not in terms of 'what are we?' but more using 'if...then' scenarios, like 'if i was to take another woman to the movies then you would...', which nicely establishes the parameters of the relationship without labeling it.Chris Benjaminhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00402945887045545024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-50682186474994882412009-02-19T06:32:00.000-08:002009-02-19T06:32:00.000-08:00Spot on.Spot on.ablogofherown.wordpress.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08100076303463436866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-48824338348883698302009-02-19T01:49:00.000-08:002009-02-19T01:49:00.000-08:00You left out the most important one.Under no circu...You left out the most important one.<BR/><BR/>Under no circumstances should you feel it is appropriate to text the guy three times in the middle of the night to say how great the date was.*<BR/><BR/>I think this fits in with your "hard to get" advice tho.<BR/><BR/>* = from personal experienceYodahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09711652528962940049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-91682805134895465402009-02-18T21:37:00.000-08:002009-02-18T21:37:00.000-08:00This list would have been helpful a month ago. It ...This list would have been helpful a month ago. It is spot on!<BR/><BR/>But I do believe that when you're in it? And you're a certain type of person (i.e you hit all the low self's--esteem, confidence blah blah) that its hard to NOT find yourself doing one of those on your list. <BR/><BR/>I'm guilty of a couple of them. I am aware I am doing them when I am doing them though. That must count for something right?Eleni Zoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06192362492099520938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-89174937353356294182009-02-18T21:10:00.000-08:002009-02-18T21:10:00.000-08:00"If you have a FWB/ booty call situations, you can..."If you have a FWB/ booty call situations, you can't expect it to transition into a relationship simply because you want it to."<BR/><BR/>I completely have that problem, seriously. And clueless on what to do.Andharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08341293139717998410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-27126482130109941402009-02-18T19:35:00.000-08:002009-02-18T19:35:00.000-08:00true..... not sleeping with him right away is HARD...true..... not sleeping with him right away is HARD though (hahahaha, no pun intended)Babshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07418318582788815683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-33401098378015323762009-02-18T18:54:00.000-08:002009-02-18T18:54:00.000-08:00I've not really dated either. It's been a date or ...I've not really dated either. It's been a date or a relationship. Never anything in betweetnBayjbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09544971638369054902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-80846816872966264082009-02-18T18:49:00.000-08:002009-02-18T18:49:00.000-08:00oh this is a great post! very good advice.confessi...oh this is a great post! very good advice.<BR/><BR/>confession: i've never dated - like ever. ever.alexa @clevelandsaplumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17455541282046721762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-27650269066622236542009-02-18T18:27:00.000-08:002009-02-18T18:27:00.000-08:00Ohhh, "the talk" is always a big one.Ohhh, "the talk" is always a big one.Mandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07840515813374990142noreply@blogger.com