tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post7323433138405031584..comments2023-08-06T04:09:45.468-07:00Comments on ...and hijinks ensued.: Stepping on bottle capsPrincess Pointfulhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10911296163218358167noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-69148934596000125432008-05-19T11:32:00.000-07:002008-05-19T11:32:00.000-07:00"It's only in retrospect that you are able to sum ..."It's only in retrospect that you are able to sum up a person you know well under a label-- schizophrenic, borderline, alcoholic, whatever. At the time, they seem too nuanced to fit, too idiosyncratic to have their motivations summed up in one word. The person you love is never supposed to be defined that simplistically."<BR/><BR/>That is just incredible. I love that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-34381324371700564032008-04-11T16:25:00.000-07:002008-04-11T16:25:00.000-07:00This post made me adore you even more, if that's p...This post made me adore you even more, if that's possible.Larissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08690789194619561508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-45089571731361964332008-04-11T07:14:00.000-07:002008-04-11T07:14:00.000-07:00Your thoughts on the alcoholic are absolutely dead...Your thoughts on the alcoholic are absolutely dead on! This was so beautifully written!KAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03090582170365523716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-28682238373253206202008-04-10T19:26:00.000-07:002008-04-10T19:26:00.000-07:00Wow. Beautifully written, and very powerful. I'm m...Wow. Beautifully written, and very powerful. I'm moved.lawyerishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04534464527493014360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-81313456594522395232008-04-10T18:50:00.000-07:002008-04-10T18:50:00.000-07:00I think Nick Nolte and David hHasselhoff are to bl...I think Nick Nolte and David h<BR/>Hasselhoff are to blame for my image of an alcoholic...<BR/><BR/>I think we never want to see ourselves as lacking the self-awareness that others might attach to our circumstances when others so easily label a situation they are not immediately involved in. We want to feel wiser, but our hearts get in the wayEFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02801934874164253857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-51180908445088120382008-04-10T14:50:00.000-07:002008-04-10T14:50:00.000-07:00You're such a great writer. I really enjoyed readi...You're such a great writer. I really enjoyed reading this post and thank you for sharing your story ;)Chelsea Talks Smackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17998747129805795801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-29280789551755499472008-04-09T12:08:00.000-07:002008-04-09T12:08:00.000-07:00That was lovely, and it brought tears to my eyes.I...That was lovely, and it brought tears to my eyes.<BR/><BR/>It is so difficult to squeeze people we love into categories. So right.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-78093253342259751342008-04-09T08:58:00.000-07:002008-04-09T08:58:00.000-07:00wow, that was poignant. amazing how things come i...wow, that was poignant. amazing how things come into perspective from a distance. what seemed like normal life turns out to be a hard time you came through.Chris Benjaminhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00402945887045545024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-34049286317416072422008-04-09T08:53:00.000-07:002008-04-09T08:53:00.000-07:00Sad story. I hope he has since gotten the help he ...Sad story. I hope he has since gotten the help he desperately needs and taken it to heart. :)Silverstarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00707642480724401146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-43328332099014994682008-04-09T08:46:00.001-07:002008-04-09T08:46:00.001-07:00oh, and i LOVED this line: Sometimes it takes a wh...oh, and i LOVED this line: <I>Sometimes it takes a while to realize that the rest of your life is happening right now.</I>megabrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07116377733819568110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-22521831357936325722008-04-09T08:46:00.000-07:002008-04-09T08:46:00.000-07:00the candor and eloquence that you showed in this p...the candor and eloquence that you showed in this post are truly amazing. thank you for sharing this with all of us.megabrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07116377733819568110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-15935090948482522962008-04-09T07:21:00.000-07:002008-04-09T07:21:00.000-07:00Victim I like the term Survivor better, because it...Victim < Survivor.<BR/><BR/>I like the term Survivor better, because it speaks to a greater empowerment, even if it took awhile to come out.Therapeutic Ramblingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12781452874259470378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-42414399477031444092008-04-09T06:57:00.000-07:002008-04-09T06:57:00.000-07:00"This image of a victim..."If (??) you ever were a..."This image of a victim..."<BR/>If (??) you ever were a victim, you had the courage, strength and intelligence to remove yourself from that role.<BR/>(And I love the bottle cap metaphor.)Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14110235078325434919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-32929161785052332052008-04-09T04:25:00.000-07:002008-04-09T04:25:00.000-07:00It's not easy in the situations, yet so easy post....It's not easy in the situations, yet so easy post. In some ways, though, that is always the beauty of it; memories truly do last a lifetime - the pain and joy.t.k.fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07885392861916837443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-23401398238219458502008-04-09T02:37:00.000-07:002008-04-09T02:37:00.000-07:00Hmm. Good deep writings.How many men have lost the...Hmm. Good deep writings.<BR/><BR/>How many men have lost themselves at the bottom of a bottle? What are they looking for?<BR/><BR/>I was addicted to cannabis for a long time. <BR/><BR/>It's much the same deal as the one you describe here; I let a relationship slide in the same way this man did. My girlfriend at the time was basically holding everything together. <BR/><BR/>I got over the addiction because, eventually, I realised it was a distraction from other problems in my life - problems which I addressed. <BR/><BR/>When I stopped and looked back, I realised I had been living in a bubble that I wouldn't ever want to fall back into - a bubble I couldn't see until I was outside of it.<BR/><BR/>This was a great post.Ultra Toast Mosha Godhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05450892955592722188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-26770011275495992352008-04-08T21:53:00.000-07:002008-04-08T21:53:00.000-07:00Man. There are so many thoughts, I just can't seem...Man. There are so many thoughts, I just can't seem to get them together enough. It's just that this post? Was so amazing. <BR/><BR/>There just ... there aren't any words.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-136573662993946482008-04-08T21:28:00.000-07:002008-04-08T21:28:00.000-07:00Your writing--your storytelling--are gorgeous here...Your writing--your storytelling--are gorgeous here. How affecting, and how well you make this stereotype into a very specific, real man in a very genuine life. <BR/><BR/>This has got to make you so much more equipped for your chosen profession, ja?Jocelynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03227519811818290510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-87052747542738882432008-04-08T14:44:00.000-07:002008-04-08T14:44:00.000-07:00wow, so well written. i love it.wow, so well written. i love it.Katelinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15994241556437259884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-81057012311107480152008-04-08T13:28:00.000-07:002008-04-08T13:28:00.000-07:00Its true as you say, that in hindsight these thing...Its true as you say, that in hindsight these things are plain obvious, without any shades of gray.<BR/><BR/>My ex wasn't an alcoholic. But in hindsight, us being together was just WRONG. I never never saw it when we were together ... *sigh*Yodahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09711652528962940049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-71052212830149771212008-04-08T10:36:00.000-07:002008-04-08T10:36:00.000-07:00I think the frog in the boiling water is the perfe...I think the frog in the boiling water is the perfect analogy to this situation. Only now can you look back and see the degree (pun intended) things reached in the end. For me personally, I don't really understand the allure of alcohol as medication, whether people are doing it intentionally or unintentionally. But I hope to never understand. I myself could probably never date someone who drank that much regularly or even someone (at my age) who drank to excessiveness maybe once or twice. I know this is somewhat judgmental, but it's just not for me.Tonyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618173853004051479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-75309743834781269822008-04-08T09:59:00.000-07:002008-04-08T09:59:00.000-07:00Beautiful post. I'm so sorry you had to endure tha...Beautiful post. I'm so sorry you had to endure that. HUGSlongredcapehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06673694596820351948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-88615365084308056302008-04-08T09:57:00.000-07:002008-04-08T09:57:00.000-07:00You are so right that when you're in a situation i...You are so right that when you're in a situation it's so hard to apply labels. And then afterward you can look back and say, wow, he was an alcoholic or she was abusive, but it doesn't change anything necessarily, to know that. After the fact it almost feels like a question of semantics. I don't know. I struggle with this too.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15942269316108576622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-83138789999219264902008-04-08T09:11:00.000-07:002008-04-08T09:11:00.000-07:00This was beautiful, love. I'm trying to find the w...This was beautiful, love. I'm trying to find the words to say how we often forget how to interpret diseases and instead resort to the stereotype. Your depiction of the man you once loved is simultaneously painful to hear about, but informative.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-37049708062006731512008-04-08T08:46:00.000-07:002008-04-08T08:46:00.000-07:00What an intimate look into some very difficult yea...What an intimate look into some very difficult years of your life. Thank you for having the courage to talk about it.<BR/><BR/>As the niece of, what I will term, a passive alcoholic, I am all too understanding of excuses. Not just from the alcoholic (of which they are endless), but from the family and friends around him. I am also all too aware of the long-term effects of alcoholism on marriage. My aunt is less and less happy as each year passes.<BR/><BR/>Remember, you are not a victim. You found a way out. You are proactively taking steps to make your life better. You are a survivor.Nilsa S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11960351638623857751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7246838997491107294.post-61225689176897557462008-04-08T08:28:00.000-07:002008-04-08T08:28:00.000-07:00That kind of sounds like me, except I haven't thro...That kind of sounds like me, except I haven't thrown up in my bed for more than three years.Joe Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04070826509389809366noreply@blogger.com