Another BPA (Bitchy Princess Alert!)
As I've said in the past, I think bitching about one's exes is a little pathetic as a regular source of blog fodder.
However... I just found out that my Ex (big E, as he is one I was with for several years) is dating a girl nearly 10 years younger than him.
On top of that, she, in his word, hates the fact that he still talks to me.
My reasonable external voice says: "Well, maybe you shouldn't speak to me in front of her [as he was texting me in front of her at the time], but I certainly hope that you don't let this stop us from being friends".
My snarky internal voice says "Honey, you might not know this, but once you get out of high school, the rule that you must hate your exes is no longer valid."
And then I totally do the diva snap in front of her face and sashay away.
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Wait ... your ex is in his 20s and is dating a girl near high school age? At that point it's like a near eternity. Wow. I can see how you would be annoyed. I'm annoyed and he's not my ex.
To clarify.... she isn't actually a teenager.
He's turning 30 this year, and she's 21.
So my high school comment was a little sarcastic...
It'd be nice if all of us could be civil with our exes. As for the little girl wanting your ex and her current to not talk to you... That's just natural jealousy, but trust and maturity have to come into play at some point.
But there's always some love/hate thing bubbling away with the exes though, isn't there - no matter how reasonable and grown up we think we are...
Question is, why should you care what she (or he) thinks?
I don't speak to any of my ex's. And if J talks to her ex then I'm ok with it...although I'll confess it would make me feel uncomfortable. Even though I knew nothing would happen. Just one of those things I think. I'm beginning to feel like a social outcast!
Think Ant has it right...why should you care what either of them think. The only person I care about & what they think is J. Other than that, chew my butt!
TEN YEARS?! I'm not one to say bad things about an age gap, but for the time in their lives they are in, I'd say that they probably don't have too much in common...
I'd say that I don't like most of my exes by the way, but I really don't think that there has to be some kind of love/hate thing. I don't think I could be friends with the Duke if that were the case.
For me, jealousy is the clearest and earliest warning sign that a relationship can't/won't succeed in the long-term.
My husband could be locked in a small room for three days with his naked ex-gf, and I wouldn't blink an eye. He'd still be with her, if she really did it for him, you know.
Personally I hate her because she got a face like a foot. But I am vain that way.
Are you saying you don't love me?!
I am fab-u-lous!
*snap snap snap*
Indy J- I can understand how she might feel some jealousy, especially because we had what would seem like an especially serious relationship to someone younger. I guess I just expect her to learn that it is something people need to come to taper!
Ant- I don't care much what she thinks, truthfully, but he is still someone that I like to see as a friend, hence me caring what he thinks!
John- As I said above, it is more about friendship that I care, more than just by virtue of him being my ex. I am on good terms with the majority of the fellows I've dated, though not super involved in their lives at this point in time. I still like being able to stay pleasant, though.
Lmizzle- Exactly to both comments! I actually like to offer up you and Duke's friendship as an example of how it can work, and your and mine friendship as why jealously is so useless!
Jocelyn- Agreed. I do admire your conviction, too :)
Duke- I'm assuming the second comment is directed towards Ms. Mizzle. However, come on, you even said she wasn't that bad! What does a foot face even looks like?
... and why am I defending her?
You should tell him not to play that game. He just wants to make somebody--prefferably female--fight over him, or at least, feel conflict. Of course, the young girl is most affected by the manipulation.
I'm sure you've resolved this a while ago.
How are you, Princess? Got a new one up. At both places. Pleasant poetics may induce pleasant dreams--not from a study, just a theory.
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